Why did she dump me? I don’t understand why she left?
Short answer: You did not LEAD, DATE, LISTEN.
My goal is to demystify the realm of dating and simplify the process for us guys. I’ve experienced everything, the great and not so great. Now, this is a hard pill to swallow for a lot of dudes, but it’s the truth. My acronym for this is, ‘LDL.’ The below verbs are what the feminine heart responds to. Girls desire to be taken care of when it comes to romance and sex. And the below is what you were NOT doing:
LEAD- the ENTIRE interaction with her; initiating conversation, getting her number, setting a date, giving her a great date, and CLOSING the date with intimacy. She wants NO responsibility for ANY of it. Leadership means positivity, self-control, and PURPOSE. Your purpose is PARAMOUNT to your success with girls. It allows her to feel safe in trusting you won’t chase and smother her. She needs to be invited into your life at her own pace. You are busy with yourself in the meantime.
DATE- ALWAYS ensure you are staying off the phone, and meeting in person- especially in the beginning- that’s what dates ARE…having fun, enjoying interesting conversations, going to new and unique places, and ultimately sexy time.
LISTEN- girls LOVE to TALK and share their experiences. COMMUNICATION is INNATE for feminine energy. You must ASK her great questions, which elicit colorful responses from her. Doing so ALLOWS her to connect with you and she WILL want to bond with you more.
Witnessing all of this unfold is magical, as it will make you BOTH feel amazing. You are naturally within your masculine, and she in her feminine…science doesn’t lie. I explain all of this in my book, which is specifically designed to help you.
It’s not ‘rocket surgery’ as my brilliant uncle always used to say. If you have chosen a normal person with integrity (traits which you should exemplify yourself) she should have been telling you implicitly what’s wrong all along...she acted distant, contacted you much less, if at all, and pulled away not wanting to see you. For longer term relationships, she wasn’t mad that you didn’t pick up the dog poop, forgot to take the garbage out, or fill the car with gas…she did NOT feel taken care of.
This caused her to feel UNSAFE, thus NOT TRUST you with her emotions. This only yields to a shutdown of her natural feminine side. Therefore, she became angry, inflexible, and MASCULINE. FEAR IS ALWAYS BEHIND ANGER. Remember, girls want to be within their femininity. This equates in you taking CHARGE of all the romance and TOUGH decision making. In return, you will have a girl that truly cares for you and will look out for your best interests.
It sucks, but the reality is you failed in your leadership and communication with her. If you find things are going south, always LDL.
LEAD- Take care of YOU first, what you do for a living, pursuing your own passions, and LIVE your own life. Allow her to come to you when she is ready…NOT over pursing, pedestalizing her, nor telling her all of your problems…this is the essence of masculinity.
DATE- In the beginning, one call per week/one date per week. Build ANTICIPATION. Always try different places she would enjoy the experience of. Intimacy and sex is your RESPONSIBILITY. As time passes, she’ll be contacting you first…then just go out on another one!
LISTEN- Let her TALK. Ask questions that you genuinely want to hear the answers to. The feminine heart REQUIRES that you UNDERSTAND her and what’s important to her. This is the same as developing rapport, she wants bond with you…so let her.
In summary, what you do in the beginning is what she falls for...thus must be maintained throughout your relationship with her.