Short Answer: Everyone is running out.
We all live like big hourglasses…the sand below is time spent NEVER to return, the sand above is our FINITE supply…and what’s falling is the PRESENT moment. That’s it.
We will ALWAYS regret the things we didn’t do. That pretty girl you always see at the store? The gym? In your building? At work? Coffee spot? It’s ALL going to end one day…why wouldn’t you go talk with her? Try and make her smile? What is there possibly to lose? Oh right, YOUR EGO. You’re just too AFRAID…it’s not the ‘right time.’ It will NEVER be the RIGHT TIME. Even if your arbitrary moment does happen, it will be too LITTLE too LATE. Femininity is unattracted to the guys who DITHER about and HIDE their interest. When I was first understanding how attraction works…I would flop around like a fish out of water before I got it right with this. SUCCESS IS A PROCESS, not a journey. You’re GOING to make mistakes, it’s simply the mechanics of learning. The greatest of successes failed BEFORE they EVER succeeded.
The two most fundamental reasons undermining your confidence with girls:
1. Fear of rejection- you’re not going to be ‘enough.’
2. Fear of loneliness- you're impatient (scaring her off) or you settle for less.
These effect ALL GUYS, no matter your background, ethnicity, country or religion. It’s human nature. I write a lot about this in my book, but to summarize it’s your COMFORT ZONE. Put simply, you haven’t MASTERED the ART of socializing and talking to people. Everywhere you go; be outgoing, express a kind word, look for a reason to smile and make someone else smile. What I do is notice the things around myself and the respective girl/person. This is a GREAT way to generate that quick-witted humor that girls adore- i.e. Matt Rife is a PRIME example of this. Look at the people who go see him live…ALL WOMEN. Just start practicing in public places…a shopping center, the mall, the gym, grocery or hardware store, a drive-thru, ANYWHERE.
IMPORTANT: Girls LOVE to be swept off their feet and fall for you through their EARS. This ancient adage rings true to this day. And THIS is how you do it…through unexpected HUMOR, a warm natured personality, and charming banter. NOT being goofy. Doing this will ALWAYS filter out the trash: negative, toxic, unhappy types of people…especially females. Most importantly, it makes you unhesitant…comfortable in your own skin. GIRLS LOVE CONFIDENT GUYS like this. I always mention FEMALE INTUITION. Their sonar is better than a deep sea nuclear submarine...meaning they know what type of guy you are before you do. This is why it's so critically important that you ACT RIGHT...as there are rules to attraction and dating.
Now if she responds positively and you have a pleasant interaction with her…you WILL feel it. She’s smiling and lit up, and so are YOU. Just get her NUMBER already. You don’t ask, you don’t get. Remember, she WANTS you to do this. She EXPECTS this from you. BE THE LEADER, TAKE CONTROL. It is your DUTY. She DOES NOT want the responsibly for it. Even if it doesn’t develop into a date, she’ll have a high opinion of you for doing what MOST guys just are NOT willing to do. AGAIN, it’s all apart of the process. Become comfortable being YOU. That’s how you NATURALLY attract the proper counterpart. Attraction is a science, and being able to communicate is a HUGE factor in its ability to work. Everyone has their strengths, but this one is a necessity in belonging to ALL.