Short Answer: You’re doubting yourself…AGAIN.
Some of you may know the fable…a fox tries hard to leap for grapes high up on a vine…within a few attempts he gives up and proclaims : “They were probably sour anyway!”
This is where most guys land with women:
1. Wait for the right timing, which is simply self-sabotage, as they are too FEARFUL of
rejection.
2. They summon the gumption, approach, and strike up a nice conversation. Then either
get turned down or get her number and she never responds.
The guys are the fox and the girls are the grapes. Guys will utilize EXCUSES to avoid the potential pain or embarrassment of expressing their honest INTEREST in a girl...the grapes look great, but they are most likely sour...
This behavior pattern only causes guys to become BITTER and PISSED that it isn’t working out for them. All this frustration originates from self-doubt. I write about this a lot in my book as meeting girls and dating is a NUMBERS game. You’re NOT going to get along with everyone, ONLY a select few. In my experience, true compatibility is 1/30 in terms of girls you meet and interact with. You CANNOT negotiate compatibility. The PROBLEM is most guys simply STOP trying after a few rejections or when they don’t hear back from her. Know what that is? DISCOURAGEMENT, and it’s an incredibly WEAK mindset. You play the victim card, you WILL never be happy…see to the Red Pill community and feminists.
What I teach are the RULES to attraction and dating. Plenty of dudes simply settle with the first girl they meet and have sex with. Internally, they know it could be better…but they DON’T move on from fear of being ALONE or to face more REJECTION…i.e. not being able to roll over on top of anyone else.
Once you’ve excelled in developing your social skills and become COMFORTABLE in your own skin, picking up girls is very easy. You already know what signs to look for: her body language, the way she looks at you, if she likes talking to you, and laughing at all the dumb stuff you say. It won’t matter what happens because you have ultimate CERTAINTY in yourself, which causes you to stop caring what others think about you. Remember, she’ll respect you when you go for it, EVEN if she says no.
NOT one person since the beginning of time was a master at first. FUCKING UP, FAILURE, and REJECTION is NATURAL and apart of the PROCESS of SUCCESS. Just knowing that you’re getting in the repetitions is powerful…PRACTICE makes PERFECT. The number ONE attraction rule from a masculine core to a feminine heart is CONFIDENCE. This is an aphrodisiac for girls. Confidence is nothing more than replicating successes despite the set backs. Women DESIRE dominant, FUN, certain, assertive, direct, humorous, calm, and indifferent men. You'll discover in your OWN attitude to be positive, REGARDLESS of ANY outcome. This is the foundation of CHARM. You KNOW there is ALWAYS another ride in the amusement park.
So QUIT being solipsistic, neurotic, and inhibiting yourself of giving your presence to the world. THAT IS THE ONLY SOUCE OF PAIN.